I hate drama.
Hate it.
I realize that’s a pretty strong statement, but it’s true. I don’t play games and never have. I don’t understand the sick pleasure someone gets from pulling some sort of power play on another human being. And I really don’t understand the need to make someone else feel worse in order for you to feel better.
None of it’s fun to me in any way. In fact, I find it pointless and exhausting.
In a conversation with a life coach acquaintance of mine, the topic turned to a guy she was working with on a project. He was rude. He was arrogant. He talked over her and took her ideas as his own. He was male chauvinist in a way I hadn’t seen in a while. He was, in no uncertain terms, a gigantic jerk.
Upon pausing from describing his vile behavior, she said, “Ah, well. He’s a wonderful teacher.”
My husband and I celebrated our 14 year anniversary in November. It was, of course, a happy occasion - especially in the age of divorce when many relationships don't last this long. It was also a time of reflection, as I pondered where the time had gone, how lucky I was to have such a wonderful husband, and how I actually loved him more now than I even did on the day we got married.
All that pondering called up one really important question:
How did that one decision to marry him - “Mr. Soulmate” - instead of “Mr. Almost Right” or “Mr. Really, Really Wrong,” change my life?
The answer?
Do you dream of finding your soulmate, but don’t know how - or if - it will happen for you?
I was in the same spot a few years ago. I had a pattern of unfulfilling relationships filled with stress, fighting, and jealousy, and was sick of repeating the same mistakes and never finding unconditional love.
So, I took some time to complete the steps below, and - to my amazement - I found my soulmate (and now husband of over 12 years) almost magically.
