Have you been told that you should just “be nicer” to someone who was abusive to you? Or that you are a bad person if you don’t want to accept someone back into your life after they’ve made decisions that were hurtful to you?
I’m over it. You should have healthy boundaries. People should be held accountable for the harm they have done. You are a good person if you can’t forgive someone.
On being freed from prison in 1990, Mandela had this to say: ”As I walked out the door toward the gate that would lead to my freedom, I knew if I didn't leave my bitterness and hatred behind, I'd still be in prison.”
If there was ever a wake-up call, that was it. I realized that by holding on to the anger towards those that had hurt me in the past, I was willingly a prisoner of their dungeons, and I really didn’t want to keep giving them that much power.
